It’s not Thanksgiving if someone doesn’t get offended. At least, that’s how it usually goes with my family. 

Though we tend to shrug it off or ignore it — these awkward situations can be challenging. In hindsight, though, there’s almost always a way to endure the holidays. You just need to mentally strategize.

If you feel stressed during the holiday season, you’re not alone. In fact, did you know that 88 percent of Americans actually feel more stressed than joyful during this time? 

Now, that’s an eye-opener. 

But what else can we expect if we have to perfect meals, decorate, make sure the kids are ready, and increase spending at the same time? It’s no wonder we may feel out of our element. Now, imagine, on top of this, some of us deal with family drama too. 

Fortunately, there are ways to mentally prepare for the family during the holidays. 

Here are three ways to tolerate those odd convos during Thanksgiving.

Take a walk when needed

Though it may sound rude to some conservative and traditional Latinx families – you have to put yourself first. That’s the key. So when a situation gets too heated or uncomfortable, take a walk. Walks can help rejuvenate your energy and give you the needed boost to carry on.

Prepare an excuse to leave if things get tough

Know that you can leave whenever you want to. At the end of the day, holidays are to celebrate and have a great time with your family – not to get grilled on. In the latter type of situation, having an excuse ready can be the safety net needed to get you through it.

Recognize that their judgments aren’t your truth

Lastly, let me assure you something: whatever others think of you isn’t your truth. Sometimes others project their traumas or self-consciousness onto outsiders, and that’s not something you can control. The only thing you can control is your own actions. Let that soak in.